Can you believe that?! .. Actually .. No .. No I can't.

If you know anything about me you will know this. I never believe anything unless I can experience it for myself or comes from a reliable source. Unlike some people who read it on Wikipedia and decide it is the gospel truth.

The internet is a breeding ground of myths, legends and tall tales. Especially for things regarding sex. But the internet isn't always to blame. Oh no... some of the myths we are going to cover today stem back many years ago! Waaaaayyyyy back... back into time. I am sure if we jumped in a time machine it would go back to the dawn of existence. So lets climb on board our Tardis (<that is a time machine for those of you who are not Whovians) and go back and see if we can't straighten out a few things shall we?

Men enjoy sex more than Women. 

If you believe this the truth you are in for a rude awakening the Truth is that women just don’t enjoy sex with you.

Actually the libido fluctuates for both sexes on several factors including diet, sleep, health, stress, medical Conditions, self-confidence and relationship disharmony. Some women think about sex more than most men I know and talk to each a lot about it. Take me for instance.

After a certain age sex is No longer important. 

Sex is an important aspect of physical and emotional health and well-being for adults of all ages, even those in their golden years. In fact with the introduction of Viagra and Cialis the cases of STD’s in nursing homes and retirement communities have Increased.

Now the thought of grandma and grandpa getting it on maybe a different story all together but now that I have planted that seed I bet you're having a difficult time getting it out ain't you... YOUR WELCOME !

You can judge the size of a man’s package by the size of his feet.

Scientific fact this is not true. Besides if that was true you wouldn't see penis pumps and pills and potions to make your penis longer you would have foot stretchers instead.

Along With that Size Matters.. It doesn’t. Only about 4 centimeters (external one third) of the vaginal canal contain sensory nerves For arousal and orgasms. So why waste time trying to stimulate the internal two Thirds of the vaginal canal when there's not going to be any response? Focus Your attention to more important matters, women! And women can do their part doing Kegel exercise to give them a fuller sensation.

Masturbation causes Blindness. 

Trust me if that was the case I would have needed a seeing eye dog a Very long time ago.

You can catch an STD from a toilet. 

Remember when your mother would place toilet paper on the seat before you sat down on it? She would be afraid you caught something. Well if it is poopie cooties.. yeah sure why not but all STD’s require a moist environment to breed. So STD's on the seat?..sorry Mom but that is a big fat NO.  Although you CAN get an STD from oral sex. So don’t think you can’t. And women using Birth control doesn’t prevent you from getting an STD. Along with Sex in a hot tub/sex standing up/jumping up and down/douching after sex/or pushing the semen out for that matter.

Men think about sex every seven seconds. 

If that was the case sporting events would be COMPLETELY Different.

Although it is true that most human beings do think about sex a lot but that is because it is important in our lives. But it isn't dwelled on like the myth suggests. And if it is well then you may have a problem....

That's right David I'm talking about you. You and your Californication. 

Women are incapable of having casual sex because they’re so emotional.

I personally know this not to be true. There are a lot of women out there who are just as much a "Playa" as there are men. Actually there are a lot more women out there who do not have this issue than there are men. Just ask any man who pays an "escort" or lady of the night. They don't call it the oldest profession for nothing. Game of Thornes shows it every week.

These women do it all the time. No problem. So it is reasonable to think if they can do it so can other women without getting paid for services.

It is possible to break a penis. 

I have blogged about this before. You cannot “break” your penis because there is no bone. However, there is a condition called a penile fracture. It is a severe form of bending injury of the erect penis that occurs when a membrane called the tunica albuginea tears.  The tunica albuginea surrounds the corpora cavernosa, specialized spongy tissue in the core of the penis that fills up with blood during an erection. When the Tunica albuginea tears, the blood leaks into the surrounding tissue causing Bruising and swelling.

The average penis is eight inches. 

No fear guys this is a total fable. On average the statistics show that most men range from 4 to 6 inches. Now if you read the above portion under the fable of the foot size you would know that size really shouldn't matter anyway. The G-spot really isn't all that far up there and most women like the clitoral stimulation.

Again if you're a Whovian you'll get that joke...lol

Blue balls can be fatal.

Seriously? I know it can not be nice at all and very uncomfortable but fatal? According to my Urology friend this is a total fable. Now he does assure me that it is indeed  quite unpleasant. He kinda summarized it like a woman who is breastfeeding and cannot feed or pump for a while and gets engorged. Ouch yes I know what that feels like so please ladies don't tease and not place too much. 

Green M & M’s make you horny. 

Along with aphrodisiac foods this is a myth.  There is no scientific evidence to support the validity of aphrodisiacs. However, while there is no science to foods or other herbs, this doesn’t mean a certain food can trigger an erotic memory so make your own aphrodisiacs. 

You cannot get pregnant from the pull out method. 

Even though this does lower the chances it is not true. Even Pre Cum has sperm count in it and it only takes one.  Same goes for the myth of you can’t get Pregnant from being on your period. Sperm can last several days past the cycle.

There is a cure for HIV/AIDS. 

Although we have come a long way and people are living longer and healthier lives with this virus there still is no cure. Same goes for Hepititis A, B and C, Herpes, Cytomegalovirus (CMV), Human Papillomavirus (HPV) and Molluscum Contagiosum virus (MCV).

Shhh there there now it's okay you can still have sex with a condom and be safe.

Women don't like porn

Not all women want rose petals on their bed. And not all women want to be whisked away into a gentle world of "love-making". Women enjoy pornography too. And if anyone thought only men can conjure up fantasies, then you are definitely misguided.

You can get addicted to your vibrator. 

Even if you climax faster and more easily with battery-powered assistance, a vibrator won’t ruin your ability to achieve orgasm with your partner. Along with this goes men are intimidated by your vibrator. Most men I have spoke with and encountered loved the thought of using vibrators on women especially when it is a remote controlled one and they are holding the remote. <wink wink>

Men Reach their Sexual Peak at 18, and Women at 40.

Not true. Although Mens testosterone levels peak around 18, but hormones are only one small factor in a male sexual performance. Women have no set peak.

Well I hope these clears up a few things for everyone. Time to climb back into our time machine and head back. See if it has done any good. If not at least those of you reading this are now a little more educated. 

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Longer than the Energizer Bunny!

I was going to name this blog "This is only for the guys" but I thought nope this is for the women as well. 

So here is the scenario. You're out on a date. Everything is going splendidly! He opens the doors for you. Wonderful conversation. Just a hint of flirtation and suggestion. You're looking hot. He is looking hot! You play the cat and mouse all night at the club. You're making out in the cab on the way back to your apartment... you can barely keep your clothes on on the way up to our apartment. You get to the bed and before you know it.. BAM... he is done. 

He is just as embarrassed and assures you that this is never happened before. Trust me.. it has. 

The top question I get from men when they find out I am a sex blogger and intimacy coach is "How do I last longer in bed?"

This blog we are going to address this and get you going longer then the Energizer fricken bunny.

First let's find out just how long is long. Some women can get off in 5 minutes. Especially if you know what it is they like.  Others can go for hours. But on average most women can achieve the Big O within 20 minutes. So when I say last longer I mean 30 minutes at least. 

So my tips and the tips of most the people in my field are these...

Kegel exercises. Yes you will hear me talk and preach about this over and over and over in my blogs. This is because I cannot stress it enough. If you missed the blog I wrote specifically for this you can CLICK HERE. It is titled Boot Camp for your love muscle. 

Kegel exercises will help you have a harder erection and last longer in bed! Not to mention help with over prostate health! Hell it will even help you shoot cum like a porn star!

I know eww.. It is just icing I assure you. I should know my kids are Bronies I've seen the episode.

Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay,Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay,Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay,Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay,Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay .. Oh did I mention Foreplay?

Men if you cannot get your partner off or don't offer to help get them off after you have got yours I promise you they will not be your partner for long. If you triple the foreplay time you are doing now I promise you will have a better success rate of getting your partner off before or the same time you do. 

Too Lazy to try those two things? Selfish Bastard... Fine... here are some other tips and tricks. 

The breathing method. No I don't mean like your doing right now.. Smart ass.. I mean quick shallow breaths. It will help you concentrate on something else besides the feeling of wanting to cum too quickly. It will also help you relax. Tension helps bring on more of an orgasm. Want to know the science behind the orgasm? I did a blog about that as well. Click here to read My what a big sex organ you have!

Masturbate before hand. If you think you have a good chance of getting lucky you may want to think about releasing some of the built up tension before hand. Especially if it has been awhile since you have been with a partner. 

Know what gets you off! If you are the type of partner who likes to start out missionary then pull your partner on top... then reverse cowgirl.. then spooning from the back... Then the double half Nelson with a quarterback flip... then flip your partner over to go doggy and that is all it takes.. You're done. Then doggy style is what gets you off. This means.. if your partner is not close to being ready to hold off doing that style for a bit longer.

The start stop method. This can be and combined with several other tips that I am going to suggest. First, Go Deep and Stay Deep. Penetrate and stop. If your partner is getting close by all means continue but don't pull out so far. Most of men stimulation is in the head and whether you are doing vaginal or anal penetration the most sensitive it will be for you is at the opening where it is the tightest. Second, Pull Out and Squeeze. If your partner is nowhere to being close then pull out and squeeze the tip of your cock. This will help eliminate any sensation of cumming too early. And while you're doing that you may want to consider number Three.. give your partner some oral pleasure while you dulling the sensation. That will get them closer so you don't have to worry about cumming too early. 

Along the lines of knowing what gets you off, DON'T HAVE SEX LIKE YOU MASTURBATE! If you know that you like to spank the monkey like a red headed step child don't have rough sex! It is just that simple.

As a last resort I always suggest a cock ring and or Condoms with desensitizing cream inside of the condom. I have read and heard some experts talk about relaxing and a bit of alcohol to help with that and it also helps to desensitize the nerves. However, I do not encourage that for a few reasons. This is not always an option for people trying to avoid alcohol. If you drink beer and you actually do follow my advice and do oral on women, this is not a good combination for her it promotes yeast infections. 

Overall try and relax. Enjoy yourself and your partner. It isn't about the destination it is about the journey. 

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It's there in the Kiss.... mmmuuuaaahhhh!

Betty Everatt belted out a song a long time ago call the Shoop Shoop Song or better known as It's in his kiss. The song really regained its popularity when Cher redid the song in her hit movie Mermaids.

I could not begin to disagree with any of the lyrics to that song.  A kiss in my opinion can be the most sensual and alluring part of any relationship. 

Now how women and men look at it are from two different lines of thinking but not always the case. 

A survey of 1,041 college students puts science behind the assumption. Women described kissing as a way to start a relationship and keep it going strong. They see kissing as personal and a way of showing affection outside of sex. Men however, were more likely to see kissing as a prelude to sex. Quite understandably, it can lead to sexual activity, but it should not be expected. What I am trying to educate the masses about in this instance is, Women this doesn't mean you need to tease and then not deliver. And Men you need to learn to kiss a person, without expecting anything further to develop.

With that being said lets move on to the do's and dont's that make this subject matter lip smackingly good.

- First off, stay hydrated. A shortage of fluids can lead to dry mouth which causes bad breath.

Speaking of which, if you eat garlic or onions or any of those other quintessential foods that make your breath like that please make sure your partner has as well. All the mints, teeth and tongue brushing will not help. Unless you have other suggestions please leave them below. I love those foods!

- Know your partner. Kissing is like dancing not everyone is great together. There are different styles and not everyone likes that kind of style. So keep that in mind when you're kissing someone for the first time. 

- Read your partner. Kissing for the first time? Or getting to know your new partner? Start out soft. No tongue.  Your mouth is not a jack-in-the-box. Ergo, every time you open it, your tongue should not automatically pop out. Become attuned to your partner's needs. Are they responsive? Aggressive? Are they hungry for more or less. How long should I kiss? All of those questions can be answered if you just take the time to read your partners body language and needs. They will be there like a book just waiting to be read.

-Marathon kissing. If you are kissing for a short period of time by all means hold your breath but if you plan on kissing any longer than that you need to breathe. Breathe casually and carefully. You don't want to be giving CPR to your partner. If you are not a nose breather try stopping and nibbling and kissing their neck to catch your breath before returning.

-Tingle it up. There are several different lip balms on the market including some that have taste and menthol in them. This will tingle things up for your passionate kiss.

- Swallow. If you are kissing for any period of time or if you decided to put a butt load of mints in your mouth before kissing someone you need to swallow. Extra salivia  isn't always great in a kiss. Especially if you are a tongue kisser. The last thing you need is to be slinging spit all over the place. 

-Use your hands. The use of hands is essential when kissing well. But again requires a little bit of knowledge about your partner. If it is your first time kissing them, you need to be careful. Never assume that because someone accepts a kiss from you, they are giving the green light to touch them more sexually. But touching the face is always a safe place to start and super sexy. 

See what I mean?

-Eyes wide shut. No peeking. Kissing with your eyes open is just creepy. Not to mention it makes your partner self conscious. But then again how does your partner know you have your eyes open if they themselves don't have theirs open.... you see the quandary. Just close them and keep closed. 

All in all please always remember, a kiss is both a gift and thank you. It is one of the few true delights left in our modern rushed society. There is little doubt we'd all be better off if there were more kissing going on. Now, good luck and get busy, someone is probably right this minute waiting for you to kiss them.

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