Eat her like a Lady!

No I didn't mistype the title. I meant exactly what I typed. Today we are going to do a public service announcement on how to make a woman melt and bend to your every whim because we are going to get up close and personal with the Vagina and finally lick this issue. Pun intended.

Now calm down ladies we must understand that most men, or at least most that I have dated, don't have one of these so in all fairness they do not really know what is going on down there. And as we discussed earlier faking it because you are bored isn't going to to teach them either. 

A partner who knows how to orally treat a woman is like discovering the lost city of Atlantis which according to Google map is not all that difficult.... see? There it is!

Hmmm I wonder... Google! Find me a man who know how to give oral on a woman!

Searching...

Still searching........

That is what I thought... Figures...

Anyhoodle... Lets see if we can change that mentality shall we?

To understand how to eat her like she has never been eaten before we have to first understand what exactly it is we are dealing with here. 

The anatomy of the Vagina or at least the parts we are going to focus on really are not all that difficult to locate. Contrary to popular belief they are all located in the same generalized area on every woman.

You have a Clitoris, clitoral legs, urethra, labia majora, labia minora, perineum, anus and the G-spot. 

All pretty basic right? Wait what.. clitoral legs? WTH is that?

Awww threw something at you that you didn't know right?! Even some of you ladies may not even know this. You see the Clitoris is more than just what you can see when you lift that hood. There is a whole group of nerves that go on each side of the Urethra under your labia minora and majora on each side kinda like a wishbone.

This is why it feels so good when you use a vibrator or your pulsating shower head on the outside of your labia. you are massaging these nerves that run down them. A ladies clitoris and legs hold over 8,000 nerve endings and is geared for one thing and one thing only HER PLEASURE

All of this is however just a warm up to the finale of course. What am I talking about? I am talking about making her squirt. Don't think she can? Think again. It really isn't all that hard. It all starts and ends with her G - spot. After arousing her and tickling her with your magic skills of licking her clit and all areas of the labia.. massaging her and getting the blood really flowing you are going to insert a finger or two about one to three inches into her vaginal opening.  And just as I said in the G-spot for men blog make sure your nails are cut and filed. That tissue is like velvet in there and will rip and cause some pain if you don't. And you don't have to pump and push it like the well is going dry either. There should be no sense of urgency... Timmie ain't at the bottom of that well.. no need for Lassie.

 Slow and steady wins a race. Yes we have the 'rabbit' but unless you have beads in your finger and can make it vibrate without pumping and moving it your finger better be a 'turtle'. Also hygiene of the hands and fingernails VERY important! The ph balance in there is trickier then trying to get an aquarium just right so you don't kill all the fish. If you go searching in there please make sure your hands are clean.

Once at about the right spot use a come hither movement with your finger in a generalized area.

Once you do this you are going to feel something start to grow. That's right the reason you can not find the G-spot is because it is flush to the vaginal wall and until you start stimulating it it will not come out. It is the peek-a-boo of all sexual organs.

Once you stimulate it though it is going to pop out like a thanksgiving turkey pop out timer! It will however have more of a texture of a Prune or Walnut that is how you know you have found it! Now that you have found it start stroking it with that come hither motion. Now you may want to try direct pressure or if you are using two fingers you may want to try stroking on both sides of it as well. The key is watch your partner.  At this point she may scream for you to stop or she is going to pee herself..especially if it is her first time.. but don't you dare! This is not pee that is going to shoot out this is a great deal of female ejaculate fluid that is ready to come out of there. Tell her not to hold back.. to push it out and before you know it..

Yeah I'm telling ya... it is a lot when it first happens. You had best be in a shower or have LOTS of plastic sheets on your bed...and floor.. and anything that is past your bed. Hell just think pretend you're at a Gallagher concert because that is what will happen when she pushes it out of there.

I promise if you do this for your partner she will make you one happy partner for life. 

There isn't a lot of don'ts down there as far as eating her. Men just think of the clitoris like the head of your cock because in essence that is all it really is.. so don't gnaw on it like a rawhide chew bone. And PARTNERS MEN AND WOMEN if you drink beer and start feeling frisky BRUSH THOSE TEETH AND MOST IMPORTANTLY THE TONGUE before going down on her! Beer has yeast...yeast grows in dark moist places... your mouth is dark and moist SO IS YOUR VAGINA.. well if you're doing it right it is. Nothing is more annoying than having the yeastie beasties!

Now this is for the ladies. If you want your partner to pack a lunch and stay for the day I have one word for you .... HYGIENE. If you don't shave at least cut back a little bit. Women of a fuller figure (of which I am one) make sure you clean and powder in those areas where skin touches skin. This way there is no question as to smells. That is the number one complaint statistically speaking why people don't like to do it... it isn't the taste in fact 78% of people don't mind the taste at all it is the smell of body odor. 

Remember to take the poll over to the left and listen to my blogtalk radio program every Sunday night at 9:00 pm est at blogtalk radio. Also if you would would like to place an order for anything on my website, Link also to the left under My Pure Pleasure, place your order with me and get 10% off your entire order for my blog readers :) Just email me at info@foryoursexformation.com or you can text or call at 571-969-SEX1 . And remember I do in home parties as well in the NOVA and 3 hours out radias. 

What a Big Sex Organ you have!

Yes Virginia there is a Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy and an Orgasm EVERY time you have sex! Okay maybe I lie. But the later part of this statement does not have to be true. I read that 30 percent of women have issues reaching orgasm.

I know Bert! It is a startling statistic but it is true!

 For whatever reason this may be we can touch on that issue at a later time. 

What I want to point out in this blog is the science behind this wonderfully delicious event that happens when we 'get off' on this action in life.

First credit where credit is due. You can see the video I watched that these screen prints came from here.

There are four states to sexual arousal. Or at least there should be... I have had some partners who didn't even know the word foreplay much less performed it. Don't these guys know that if your partner is happy they are going to want to make you REALLY happy? And if your partner is REALLY happy they will not tell other people just how disappointing you were. And trust me if that gets out your sunk.

When focused on and performed correctly however these four stages are Excitement, Plateau of Arousal, Orgasm and Resolution.

Excitement can stem from anywhere. It can be a soft kiss, suggestion, look or touch. Again it all starts in the mind. The biggest sex organ of them all. And no I don't care how big your Cock is... I still know this to be true. Ya don't believe me, try not using it. I guarantee you won't get anywhere without it.

During Plateau of Arousal your body starts to kick into action. Blood starts to flow to your genitals and your heart rate and breathing increases. 

*HINT - Listen to her guys... her panting and moaning are clear indications your doing something right 

At this point your Central Nervous System is fully engaged and sending delightful signals of enjoyment to the reward center of your brain... and why not?! You work hard... both of you deserve a reward! Now the longer you continue this performance the more your receptors will continue to stimulate your brain and so and so forth until you achieve orgasm. Now hopefully you achieve it together but if not, no worries, you can still continue to help your partner to achieve what you both have started. As I said you both work hard you both deserve it. You can also use romance enhancers such as enhancement creams, heating lubricants and toys to help either of you with achieving your crowning glory.

Now I think we all know what happens during orgasm but if you are brand new to all this or are not sure that you have ever had an orgasm before...

Don't laugh I have actually talked with people who have asked ... seriously.

For Men it can last anywhere on average from 3-10 seconds and includes contractions of the anal sphincter the prostate gland (or the male G-spot<again another blog) and the penis muscle. It also usually proceeds with the release of sperm known as ejaculation but depending on the rate at which this has happened it is not always the case. After a male orgasm it is followed by a refractory period. What is this you ask? Well I will tell. You may know it as... OMG I am spent .. can we not cuddle and while your at it could you make me a sandwich and wake me up in about an hour.. Syndrome. It is during this time,ranging from minutes to hours for some men, where another orgasm cannot be achieved.

For Women we do not have a Refractory Period which allows us to have multiple consecutive orgasms which is nice... really really really nice. During our orgasm our uterus, vagina, pelvic muscles and anus contract. Some women have been known to have been mistaken in having epileptic seizures when this happens. Do not get your the tongue depressors and epi pens out quite yet guys it is a natural occurrence in some women during multiple consecutive orgasms. Most orgasms for women last about 20 seconds but can be much longer if multiple consecutive orgasms are what she experiences. Lucky yes indeed we are and even luckier if we have a partner who knows how to bring it out in us. But not as lucky as the Pig who can have multiple consecutive orgasms for up to 30 minutes!!!

I know! Right?! Lucky ass pig!

But it all starts and finishes in the control or lack of in the Brain. Here is where the good Science comes in. Under functional MRI it is discovered that the brain is flooded with Dopamine which is a feel good chemical that is most times linked to drugs like Heroine or Cocaine.  Dopamine is the chemical that gives you the craving of things that feel good to you. This is in tandem with the release of Oxytocin.. not be confused with Oxycontin. Oxytocin is a hormone that plays a role in bonding, trust and maternal instincts. This is why a lot of OB/GYN's suggest love making during postpartum depression.

Pet Scans taken during an orgasm has shown that during an orgasm it is the SAME for men and women. The lateral orbitofrontal cortex shuts down which is the determining factor for self evaluation, reason, self control, fear and anxiety... which explains a lot when I see these women go nuts at a Chippendale convention. I never understood why these women would scream, hoot and holler. Don't get me wrong, I do certainly like what I see. They are pretty to look at. But the main reason I go is to get a chuckle out of those women  who almost faint in excitement. Anyhoodle, let's continue shall we?

The relaxation of the Amygdala and Hippocampus lower emotion in women (another reason to get your women off Men!) causing an almost trance like state and also lower aggression in men. The only real difference between men and women in the Brain during an orgasm is many areas of a womans brain are shut down COMPLETELY and in Men it isn't as striking probably due to the shorter duration and refractory period. The Periaqueductal Gray or PAG  is also activated much more in women which stimulates the flight or fight response along with the Cebreal Cortex which is associated with pain receptors. 

Hmmmm I wonder if that is why I like my hair pulled or spanked sometimes.... 

I always have said there is a fine line between pain and pleasure. Now I know why!

 Yes indeed Science is Sexy !!

I hope that explains a bit more of what happens to us physically above and beyond what we can feel to all of you reading this. I just think the more we understand the better we can become at expressing what we like and want from our partners.  If we know how our bodies and minds react it give a clearer indication overall of what is truly going on. 

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Now go out and have some wonderful Sex ya'll!

Silicone! Cyberskin! and Latex Oh MY!!

With so many sex toys out there and things that can help to enhance our sexual experience in and sometimes out of the bedroom <wink wink> it can be difficult to understand all the different types of material it takes to make up these wonderfully delicious sex toys.

This week I am going to break down and give you the low down on all the materials that make up these divine products. I will also discuss the differences and how to care for them and store them as well. 

So let’s get started shall we?

Silicone 

Silicone is soft and lifelike, it is hypoallergenic, warms up quickly to body temperature, non-porous and so is easy to clean and can even be boiled for sterilization (that is of course if the toy is water proof and if not if there are no electronic devices in it). Unlike jelly rubber and other porous materials, silicone can be sterilized in temperatures up to 300 °C (572 °F). In addition, it can be bleached in a 10% bleach solution. When using lubricants with silicone sex toys it is important that silicone or silicone-based lubricants are not used to avoid damage to the toy so in a likely matter do not store Silicone toys together unless you want melted toy. There are different grades of silicone; it is preferable that medical-grade silicone be used for sex toys. Cheaper silicone products may use industrial-grade silicone. Because of the material does not come cheap these toys are usually more expensive.

IN SUMMARY:
*Hypoallergenic
*Non-porous can be boiled for sterilization if waterproof
*Water based Lubricants only
*Store individually away from other toys they are diva’s and don’t play nice
*Does not contain phthalates
*Costly

Cyberskin /TPE or TPR/ UR3/Soft Touch/ Futurotic/ and Neoskin

CyberSkin is a ThermoPlastic Elastomer or ThermalPlastic Rubber and is a close emulation of real skin. CyberSkin is made from ingredients on FDA approved lists and it does not contain phthalates, polyvinyl chloride (PVC), heavy metals or latex which means it is hypoallergenic as well. These are great for people who are sensitive to certain chemicals and latex. It is slightly porous which means it can still hold bacteria if not clean properly with toy cleaner and is not susceptible to higher temperatures like Silicone. So if you are going to share your toy consider using a condom. It is easy to clean and maintain by using toy cleaner and patting dry. Water based lubricants are best and they should be stored in a dry place.

IN SUMMARY:

*Hypoallergenic
*Porous material so use condom if shared
*Water or Silicone/Water Hybrid Recommended but Silicone can be used IF you have nothing else.  Just cleanse thoroughly when done
*Store in dry place
*Does not contain phthalates
*Usually not as costly as Silicone but still pricer

 

 

Latex rubber/PVC/Jelly Rubber

Latex rubber, also called jelly rubber, is commonly used for sex toys; it is a flexible and inexpensive material allowing the user more options in size and look. It is water-resistant and less liable to tear the it’s aforementioned counterparts making them extremely durable.  While latex is commonly used and less expensive than materials such as silicone, glass and CyberSkin, it can cause a reaction to some people with latex allergy. Latex is porous and should be cleaned thoroughly with toy cleaner and a condom to be used if shared with other people. Some rubber toys contain phthalates which are used to soften rubber, but certain studies have shown that exposure to phthalates can have negative affect your respiratory system, cause cancer, and lead to liver problems. However, there are also studies that do not show conclusive evidence between the link of phthalates and certain medical conditions. As of now, phthalates are still legal by the FDA, and is used in sex toys as it is cost effective to manufacturers, making toys with phthalates cheaper to the consumer. Water and silicone-based lubricants can be used with latex toys. These toys are very porous and susceptible to bacteria. Make sure you clean thoroughly with toy cleaner and it is not advisable to share but they are cheap enough you can have one for a guest anyway.

IN SUMMARY
*Non Hypoallergenic
*Porous material not advisable for sharing
*Any type of Lube will work except Oil based lube… Lube discussion will be next week
*Can be stored with other Latex Rubber/PVC/Jelly Rubber Toys in chest or drawer
*Some may contain phthalates check with your Romance Sexpert Education Consultant or Adult shop Representative. Key is if you’re worried about it and they are unsure and cannot get a clear answer from the manufacturer buy something different.
*Best to buy on a budget

Hard Plastic

Hard Plastic Sex Toys are phthalate free, hypoallergenic, and are non-porous, which makes these products easy to clean.The drawback of the Hard Plastic Toys is comfort, potentially breakage if dropped, and non-realistic feel. Many of the hard plastic vibrators are powerful, as the lack of the soft texture in the hard plastic allows the vibrations to be more powerful. Water-based and silicone based lubricants can be used with the hard plastic toys.

IN SUMMARY
*Hypoallergenic
* Non-porous can be boiled for sterilization if waterproof
* Any type of Lube will work except Oil based lube… Again lube discussion will be next week
* Can be stored anywhere with anything.
* Does not contain phthalates
* Best to buy even on a College Students budget!

Metal and Glass

Sex toys that are made up of metal or glass are very durable and non-porous, which makes them easy to clean. Many of the dildos (non-vibrating) are made up of glass or metal. These toys are compatible with all types of lubricants and can be boiled for cleaning or cooled to enhance the experience.

IN SUMMARY
*Hypoallergenic
* Non-porous can be boiled for sterilization if waterproof
* Any type of Lube will work except Oil based lube… Again lube discussion will be next week
* Can be stored anywhere with anything. I STORE MY GLASS ONE OUT IN THE OPEN AS DECORATIVE! Shhh don’t tell I get a kick out of people who pick it up and say “Ohhh how pretty! What an unusual piece!”
* Does not contain phthalates
* Some glass toys can get pretty pricey so save your pennies

I have posted pictures of products that personally own and enjoy from my website. Prices are as of today 03/10/2013.

I hope this guide has helped a bit and again I carry all these products and much more at my website! My party is still going on. If you click on my website and when placing your order at the end please place my party number of #328 for me to get a credit. I will be sending a nice surprise to one lucky winner chosen at random out of all the people who buy. Winner to be announced after party is closed on 3/23/2013.

Thanks for subscribing and don’t forget to answer this week’s poll over the left. Please leave your comments and suggestions below. Next week we will cover all these lubes I wrote about in this blog.  

Fetishes

Have you ever caught your partner lingering a little to long on your hands or feet? Longing... almost having a pool of spittle on the floor?

Do you get turned on by your partner in tight clothes showing all the bulges in the right place?

Do you fantasize about your partner in the nude in public?

Or do you think doing it in the car is risky and hot?

Then yes you have a sexual obsession or more commonly referred to by most as a sexual fetish. Although they go hand in hand I would like to point out there is a difference. An obsession being a compulsive, often unreasonable idea or emotion. A fetish being any object, idea, eliciting unquestioning reverence , respect or devotion to. Whether you realize it or not we all have a sexual obsession and sometimes fetish. Some more prominent then others and certainly some more frowned on by societies standards.

These obsessions are usually harmless and enhance your bedroom desire. The moment they become an overall obsession in your life then this can be an issue and needs medical treatment and/or psycho analysis right away.

In the end sexual fetishes in the bedroom is healthy as long as it adds pleasure to your love making. And remember just because it isn't your fetish doesn't mean your partner doesn't like it. Suck it up.. put your big boy/girl pants on and and deal with it. Because if your partner is happy they will go to great lengths to make you the same.

Don't forget to take the latest poll on Fetishes this week (found on the left side of this page) and check out my website for the latest erotic and romantic products to boost your fetish experiences with your partner or to book your in home or virtual party today to get free products!!

Welcome to my first blog post. First let me introduce myself. My name is Nikki Biggs and I am a My Pure Pleasure Consultant, among other things of course.  I own and operate my own My Pure Pleasure business which is an in-home party plan similar to Mary Kay and Pampered Chef. However, our product line is much more personal then make up and kitchen utensils. We sell relationship enhancements, bath, body, lotions, lingerie, and bedroom accessory products all while educating and empowering women and men alike about their sexuality.

There are a lot of companies out there like ours so what sets ours apart from the others? I used to be a consultant for another rival company that is no longer in business. I then took a couple years off from doing parties all together. When deciding to come out of retirement I did my research and found these consultants to actually care about what they are teaching women, men and couples. Some companies don't even allow men to come to parties much less be consultants. And of course the selection is quite vast. You are not stuck with one size fits all product. There is a lot to choose from and from different lifestyle choices. Haven't tried something? How do you know if you don't try?

I will be posting weekly segments and informational topics on that all taboo subject and look forward to the comments and questions. With blogger you can even post anomalously if you like. I will also be posting links and special hostess incentives and specials on products as they are available.

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