So here is the scenario. You're out on a date. Everything is going splendidly! He opens the doors for you. Wonderful conversation. Just a hint of flirtation and suggestion. You're looking hot. He is looking hot! You play the cat and mouse all night at the club. You're making out in the cab on the way back to your apartment... you can barely keep your clothes on on the way up to our apartment. You get to the bed and before you know it.. BAM... he is done.
He is just as embarrassed and assures you that this is never happened before. Trust me.. it has.
The top question I get from men when they find out I am a sex blogger and intimacy coach is "How do I last longer in bed?"
This blog we are going to address this and get you going longer then the Energizer fricken bunny.
First let's find out just how long is long. Some women can get off in 5 minutes. Especially if you know what it is they like. Others can go for hours. But on average most women can achieve the Big O within 20 minutes. So when I say last longer I mean 30 minutes at least.
So my tips and the tips of most the people in my field are these...
Kegel exercises. Yes you will hear me talk and preach about this over and over and over in my blogs. This is because I cannot stress it enough. If you missed the blog I wrote specifically for this you can CLICK HERE. It is titled Boot Camp for your love muscle.
Kegel exercises will help you have a harder erection and last longer in bed! Not to mention help with over prostate health! Hell it will even help you shoot cum like a porn star!
I know eww.. It is just icing I assure you. I should know my kids are Bronies I've seen the episode.
Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay,Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay,Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay,Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay,Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay .. Oh did I mention Foreplay?
Men if you cannot get your partner off or don't offer to help get them off after you have got yours I promise you they will not be your partner for long. If you triple the foreplay time you are doing now I promise you will have a better success rate of getting your partner off before or the same time you do.
Too Lazy to try those two things? Selfish Bastard... Fine... here are some other tips and tricks.
The breathing method. No I don't mean like your doing right now.. Smart ass.. I mean quick shallow breaths. It will help you concentrate on something else besides the feeling of wanting to cum too quickly. It will also help you relax. Tension helps bring on more of an orgasm. Want to know the science behind the orgasm? I did a blog about that as well. Click here to read My what a big sex organ you have!
Masturbate before hand. If you think you have a good chance of getting lucky you may want to think about releasing some of the built up tension before hand. Especially if it has been awhile since you have been with a partner.
Know what gets you off! If you are the type of partner who likes to start out missionary then pull your partner on top... then reverse cowgirl.. then spooning from the back... Then the double half Nelson with a quarterback flip... then flip your partner over to go doggy and that is all it takes.. You're done. Then doggy style is what gets you off. This means.. if your partner is not close to being ready to hold off doing that style for a bit longer.
The start stop method. This can be and combined with several other tips that I am going to suggest. First, Go Deep and Stay Deep. Penetrate and stop. If your partner is getting close by all means continue but don't pull out so far. Most of men stimulation is in the head and whether you are doing vaginal or anal penetration the most sensitive it will be for you is at the opening where it is the tightest. Second, Pull Out and Squeeze. If your partner is nowhere to being close then pull out and squeeze the tip of your cock. This will help eliminate any sensation of cumming too early. And while you're doing that you may want to consider number Three.. give your partner some oral pleasure while you dulling the sensation. That will get them closer so you don't have to worry about cumming too early.
Along the lines of knowing what gets you off, DON'T HAVE SEX LIKE YOU MASTURBATE! If you know that you like to spank the monkey like a red headed step child don't have rough sex! It is just that simple.
As a last resort I always suggest a cock ring and or Condoms with desensitizing cream inside of the condom. I have read and heard some experts talk about relaxing and a bit of alcohol to help with that and it also helps to desensitize the nerves. However, I do not encourage that for a few reasons. This is not always an option for people trying to avoid alcohol. If you drink beer and you actually do follow my advice and do oral on women, this is not a good combination for her it promotes yeast infections.
Overall try and relax. Enjoy yourself and your partner. It isn't about the destination it is about the journey.
MMMMMMMMMM was it good for you? Let me know by commenting below. Have Questions? Email me at info@foryoursexformation.com
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