Bedroom Tips - Missing something?! I think I found it!

If you have been together for a while, bedrooms can end up becoming quite boring and predictable. 

I have tried to give you something to work with and tips in previous blogs but if all that has not got the creative juices flowing I suppose I can put together some more ideas. If you really want to keep the excitement and anticipation alive, you need to create new experiences. I have always said and will to this day that seduction is a lost art. And in my opinion is really what is missing in intimacy between partners today. 

The first few weeks of a new relationship are always unique and exciting. And the only reason why it’s so fascinatingly exciting is because of the unpredictability in the relationship. Both of you are still learning about other, and every single thing both of you do together is an experience that’s unique.

Once you start getting comfortable with each other and share a lot of experiences with your partner things start to slow down in the uniqueness department. This doesn't mean it has to be boring. 

So todays blog we are going to talk about tips and trick to get those creative love juices flowing.

#1 Change of scenery 

When partners get in a rut, especially when you have others in the household and can not get your loving on in any room in the house try laying a blanket on the floor. Nothing is more annoying than trying to get sexy in bed and having "room" problems... "Honey, could you move over to your left a little bit your elbow is in my face". With the floor you have a nice solid area to move about and get your groove on. You can both roll around and your partner can place you where they want you without fear of falling off the bed. Place a few "out of range" lit candles and you have just become one Sexy Mutha F---SHUT YOUR MOUTH! 

#2 Set the mood
Since men are visual why not trying popping in a compromise other than just porn. Pop in your favorite seductive movie! My personal favorite is 9 1/2 weeks. If you have not seen this movie it has that literary piece of crap 50 Shades of Gray beat by millions of miles!!! But whatever you both find totally erotic pop it in. The key is for you both though. Play out scenes from the movie if you can. Insert your own names from the story line. 


#3 Mood Music

You have a favorite song? You know... one you hear and you just want to get up and start dancing all sexy n' stuff? You hear the lyrics and the beat sometimes the voice and start to get moist in the pants? Oh yeah baby right there. Whether it is Barry White, Erotic City, R & B, Alternative or who knows maybe even some country cue it up and get your groove back. It doesn't have to be all about Stella getting her groove back either, Stan can too. Make a mixed playlist of all your favorites and get busy!

#4 Tired of Oral? Try Rubbing!

Grab the tarp and the baby oil because we are gonna get messy. Noooo you don't have to do all of that. Erotic Massage does not have to be all that messy and frankly being a professional Masseuse is not required either. The reason Masseuse use oil is because the aromatic effect which is nice to use for that purpose but I'm a practical type of girl and I don't want my sheets all stained up from oil so why not try using a water based lube. It works just as well and doesn't leave stains. Get your partner in the mood especially her. The more relaxed you make her the quicker she is going to release. 


#5 Babes in toy land!

I've said it before and I will till I die. Every bedroom need 5 staple products Heightener, Lube, Sex toy for her, Sex toy for partners and Toy Cleaner. We all like to be happy and release during sex. Toys can and should be a part of every bedroom as a great option. Whether you use it in your erotic massage session or use it on him during a mouth hug or her to get her off any of these scenrios plus many more area all great reasons to have them "handy" and on hand. 
Don't have any? You can always ask my advice through email and I can even get a discount on my website where I sell all the finest and most sought after toys and products on the market <<I know shameless plug.. but HEY IT'S MY BLOG!


#6 Lingerie
I know this is not really a topic for men. That is of course unless they want to dress up as well. Some do. Silk feels mighty pretty on any part of your body. But what I am talking about is ladies. Ladies, lets dish. Thigh highs and garters, corsets and heels... No matter what your size ALWAYS looks sexy! And guess what? You feel sexy as well! And if you look Marvelous you feeeeel Marvelous.


#7 Say Cheese!

The wonderful thing about smart phones these days is they have video and cameras on them! Take a few pics or videos of yourself and send them to your partner throughout the day. Or better yet take pictures or video when you're together. There is a naughty type of taboo element to it not to mention it is just plain hot!


#8 Switch!!!
Tired of the old routine? Why not switch it up a bit. Is your partner usually the dominate one? Why not tie your partner up and blindfold them. Not sure what to do? First and foremost "safety" first. Meaning a safety word or gesture.. something totally rando like "blueberry pancake" <inside joke. Try a little spanking and biting. Dirty talk while your doing it... not sure how to start? Just say what you're doing? Ask if they like it. "MMM I'm going to nibble on the nipple... you like that?" Use a feather or lightly touch them. While being blindfolded that is going to heighten their sense of touch a bit. 






#9 Snack time
Grab some strawberries and melted chocolate or better yet get yourself some edible body paint. Go to town on each other! The best part? Licking it off! Make a game of it! Make body sundaes heck who cares. Sex and food should go hand and hand... it is the wonderful world of taste and some sexy licking should go along with it. 



#10 Splish Splash
After some sexy snack time why not jump in the shower together and play out a sexy shower fantasy. Clean each other and grab the silicone based lube and have some awesome shower sex.  

I hope some of these ideas have helped spark some things in your mind. In the meantime take the poll on the side and visit my website. Remember blog readers let me know what it is what you would like to purchase and I will give you 10% off your order. 

MMMMMMM was it good for you? Let me know your feedback here under comments or email me at info@foryoursexformation.com and don't forget to listen to my radio show tonight on blog talk radio at 9:00 pm est.

Mouth Hugs - WINK WINK

**WARNING THIS WEEKS BLOG HAVE EXPLICT PICTURES. PLEASE VIEW IN PRIVATE! NSFW!**

If you have not understood the title of this blog I will explain. Ever since I performed my first blow job waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay back when. I always cringed at the name. I am a major ubergeek and thus I have a very logical thinking pattern. So when I hear blow job I know what it is and know what it means it just doesn't make logical sense in my head. Blow job?! You don't blow.. okay well sometimes for a game changer ... but in all actuality you don't blow you suck. But suck job sounds horrible. It sounds like you totally suck at what you do, which is the point of a blow job, which is contrary to the name, but you don't blow you suck, wait, huh?

Welcome to my mind!

So instead of calling it blow jobs I much rather call it Mouth Hugs. So from this day forward I proclaim this to be .... 

So sayeth the blogger... so It shall be done! Okay well for this blog at least. 

Soooooo Mouth Hugs!

I know guys... about time I blog about something interesting for you huh?

As always we need to study the anatomy of the penis and all its lovely parts...

We have covered the science of sex so we know all about arousal right? Right. But as far as the physicalities of a boner.... Side bar.. Interesting fact.. did you know that the original term "boner" may have come from the fact that primates, of which creationists believe we were evolved from, have an actual BONE in their penis called a Baculum and even women have one in their clitoris! But I digress. We do not have an actual bone in our penis or clitoris but we do have lots and lots of nerve endings and in men there is the Corpus Cavernosa which is the spongy tissue that fills with blood upon arousal and then.....

Boing!!!

I have done some quite extensive research in this matter from men who were cut to uncut and I have come to one unanimous conclusion when asking men what they like about getting a mouth hug they said EVERY DAY!

First and foremost I would like to address the controversy that seems to stem from whether or not cut vs. uncut men have better orgasms from their foreskin by saying it is still inconclusive. Each person is different. It is true that the foreskin alone has approximately 20,000 erotogenic nerve endings.

Yes I know! If I had known that when my sons were born I would have told them not to cut it! Sorry boys :(

But I also know that when performing fellatio on an uncut man he seems to be more aroused when the skin is pulled back and the head is addressed directly. Either way most men who are uncut have dealt with this all their lives so they know how to keep it clean and if they want a mouth hug from their partner best keep it that way... unless of course into that kind of thing.

Good hygiene and manscaping is always a  great idea when wanting to get a mouth hug from your partner. Heck if you want to spice things up have your partner wash you up before the festivities. 

I am pretty sure we all know what a mouth hug in details so I will be just giving tips and different variations that I have encountered over the years. If you have any further specific questions please feel free to email me at info@foryoursexformation.com

The good old standby I call fisting for nice girls. 

This is when you use one hand to hold the base of the penis, and let saliva pool in your mouth. Make a loose fist with your other hand and slide it up and down the penis, closing it when you reach the head. Get the hand motion right first, then add your mouth, letting your hand act as an extension of it. Create a snug vacuum (but don't suck), then slide up and down, your hand following your mouth. If you're not the most coordinated person, hold your hand still at the base of the penis and simply move your mouth up and down.

The next I call the Bowchickawowow

Love it or hate it, men are visual. All men. Gay, Straight or Bi.  It is a fact of life. This is why they are so fond of porn. They also like the fact that it is over exaggerated.  So why not add an erotic flair to your repertoire. Give him a mouth hug when he least expects it. While you're doing it reach up and tweak his nipples while maintaining eye contact. Heck throw a little cheap mascara on and gag a bit on his cock making that horrible sound. *Little know fact...most men like that little gag... it makes them feel like they have the biggest cock in the world. This causes the eyes to water and the mascara to run giving it that dramatic look that porn seems to be portraying these days. 

This next one is called Don't forget the Boys.

The greatest compliment you can give him is looking like you want to down in that area. And one of the best ways to demonstrate this is to explore all of it. Take one or both testicles in your mouth, hum lightly, suck gently and swirl your tongue around them. Tug lightly on the sac while doing any of the following above. If your adventures lick the peritoneum or the taint area and if you're REALLY adventurous try giving him a rim job. Not sure if that is something you may like the taste of? Try a piece of plastic wrap and your favorite lube licking his ass is a total bond of trust.

So now that you have decided on which strategy you're going to use in order to please your man. He is close and ready to ejaculate now what? FINISH THE JOB... Ladies have you ever been so close and didn't want your partner to stop whatever it was they were doing and your partner does stop for whatever reason...

They then realize how close you are and reach for a toy or reach down and stimulate you with your hand to help you get there. It just ISN'T the same though...you knew if they didn't stop it would have been FANTASTIC!

THAT is exactly what happens when your giving a mouth hug and you realize he is about to cum in your mouth and you pull your mouth off to finish him with your hand or have him finish himself off with his own hand. Secretly they are thinking...

So for the love of all that is right and good in the world please let him do his thing. It will greatly be appreciated and returned. If you don't like the texture, taste or smell you don't have to swallow it. But they do make oral heighteners and masking strips for these types of things that I even carry and you can get from me for a discount just for reading my blog. 

Men if you have a pretty good indication that you may be getting a mouth hug try these tips within a 24 hour period. Do not smoke or drink alcohol this gives semen a bitter taste. Eating red meats, asparagus, broccoli, spinach and some vitamins will give secretions a sharp or salty taste along with dairy products so try to avoid these as well. Eating parsley, wheatgrass and celery will give semen a more mild flavor, these are high in chlorophyll and will even make it sweeter. As will spicing foods such as cinnamon, cardamom, peppermint and lemons. And lots and lots of fruits especially pineapple, papaya, cranberry, melons, mangos, apples and grapes. 

And don't worry if you're on a diet and you do like to send him over the top and swallow. The average ejaculate is about 4ccs of liquid and consists of less than 36 calories. So anyone who is using a calorie counter can put that in your recipe book. 

Make sure you take the poll this week and hopefully I will have a much better computer and internet connection so that I can do the radio show next week. Remember to let me know what you want to order from my website (found on the side) and I will make sure you get your discount for being a blog reader. 

MMMMMM was it good for you? Let me know at info@foryoursexformation.com or visit my website at foryoursexformation.com.

Who said Girls have all the fun!

I know... last week I talked extensively about multiple consecutive orgasms for women as pointed out to me from this email ...

Dear Nikki,
You think you said Multiple Consecutive Orgasms enough times in one paragraph in your last blog entry? I mean I wasn't offended. As a guy I would love nothing more then to get my partner off over and over again. But come on!!!
Other then that enjoy reading your blog entries keep up the good work.
Reggie

Well thank you Reggie I try my best and your right. Once I get on a roll about Multiple Consecutive Orgasms it is hard for me not to think about Multiple Consec... okay sorry I get it. Stopping now. So I decided to talk all about guys this blog topic.

Let's talk about the Male G-Spot shall we?

Oh quit being a little girl!

What I am talking about here folks is what some men really don't like to talk about. That is their Prostate Gland. Located in between their rectum and testis just below the clinical term called the peritoneum or as men call it in slang "the taint".  And "why" you may ask do they not like to talk about it? Because of it's actual location. To REALLY massage it well some men have hangs ups about it. Because of societies ignorance, in my opinion, some men (especially straight men) think if anything remotely goes near their ass much let touches their anus they think they will be labeled gay or thought less of as a man. 

Trust me on this.. I have done enough research, polls and spoke with a lot of male friends who know they can speak openly enough to me and not be judged to let me know this is truly how they feel society will judge them. And what a sad sad world we live in for these men to miss out on what I can only imagine a wonderful experience.

As we learned in the previous blog about the whole science of sex we know what happens when a male has an orgasm. But what exactly does the prostate do?  The prostate makes a fluid that activates sperm as they are being ejaculated. So it has a pretty important job. Along with that job comes LOTS AND LOTS of nerve endings. Just like a woman's Grafenberg spot or G-spot. Thus the reason to call it a male G-spot. Now like a woman's G-spot we know it is all elusive and some women don't even know where their own is located much less telling their partner where it is. With men it isn't so hard. It is a small chestnut-sized bump situated approximately two inches inward and down towards the testis. Now I know from personal experience when I have a G-spot orgasm that is usually when I have that mind blowing, spectacular Multi... opps sorry almost drifted of there ....

I know.. I know... sorry Reggie

But you see where I'm going with this. If our G-spot orgasms are that amazing why can't it be just that amazing for men? And ya know what? I have actually talked to men who were not afraid to be labled and have done it and agreed with me that yes... yes indeed it is that amazing!

So when your ready and are comfortable with a partner I will give you a few tips that will help you ease into this a bit.... 

Just Kidding guys ... Just kidding! Geez Calm down!!!

Okay Okay I get it!

I'm not talking about having your partner strap one on and go to town I am talking about first learning your body. Just because a G-spot on a guy is easier to find then a woman doesn't mean we are all the same. As I said in my previous blog the biggest sex organ in the body is your brain. It all starts with arousal. Trust. Communication. Start with just massaging the "taint" area with some lube while you kiss and explore. Massage it, put a little pressure on it. If he starts to moan... well it's okay to like it. Maybe just start with that then move up to massaging just outside the anus along with the "taint" next time. This will help him to become more relaxed and more receptive to the idea. Remember before you decide to let your partner explore internally there are a couple of things you may want to do. The minimum preparation is a regular bowel movement followed by a complete external cleansing. You may even want to use some liquid soap and cleanse just inside a bit and rinse thoroughly. We will only be exploring a couple of inches in.. not a deep sea diving expedition.

If you are really feeling self conscience about it you can rinse internally but most experts do not suggest anything over a disposable bulb enema with plain warm water. Insert and gently squeeze allowing the water to rinse out. Repeat several times, or until the water runs clear. Never ever ever use hot or cold water.. your gonna want to be Goldilocks on this one and be JUUUUUUST right. About wrist temperature will be fine. You are not going to want to do anything larger then a bulb. Anything bigger can constitute a colonic and you don't want that before someone starts inserting things in there with all that cramping and blotting. If that is truly the route you want to go seek a professional. After that is done make sure you have your lube available. I suggest the silicone lube, Make sure you have latex or vinyl gloves or if your partner decides to "ride you bareback" sort of speak make sure their nails are trimmed, you don't want to have a hang nail and have it rip some tissue while in there. Once your comfortable have them again massage the "taint" area then press gently on the anus with your lubricated finger. Once they have their "one" finger in locate the Prostate about 2 inches in from the entrance of the anus. Once located tell your partner what feels good and what doesn't. Take your time.. do it slow and easy... let the body accept the finger. Later as you become more comfortable you can try a couple of beads or plugs. Which of course can be purchased at my website.

Once you find someone you trust and can relax with it won't be so difficult and who knows you just may find out you like it!

Don't forget to take the poll over to the left, subscribe, leave a comment, visit my website for tools and LUBE! 

What a Big Sex Organ you have!

Yes Virginia there is a Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy and an Orgasm EVERY time you have sex! Okay maybe I lie. But the later part of this statement does not have to be true. I read that 30 percent of women have issues reaching orgasm.

I know Bert! It is a startling statistic but it is true!

 For whatever reason this may be we can touch on that issue at a later time. 

What I want to point out in this blog is the science behind this wonderfully delicious event that happens when we 'get off' on this action in life.

First credit where credit is due. You can see the video I watched that these screen prints came from here.

There are four states to sexual arousal. Or at least there should be... I have had some partners who didn't even know the word foreplay much less performed it. Don't these guys know that if your partner is happy they are going to want to make you REALLY happy? And if your partner is REALLY happy they will not tell other people just how disappointing you were. And trust me if that gets out your sunk.

When focused on and performed correctly however these four stages are Excitement, Plateau of Arousal, Orgasm and Resolution.

Excitement can stem from anywhere. It can be a soft kiss, suggestion, look or touch. Again it all starts in the mind. The biggest sex organ of them all. And no I don't care how big your Cock is... I still know this to be true. Ya don't believe me, try not using it. I guarantee you won't get anywhere without it.

During Plateau of Arousal your body starts to kick into action. Blood starts to flow to your genitals and your heart rate and breathing increases. 

*HINT - Listen to her guys... her panting and moaning are clear indications your doing something right 

At this point your Central Nervous System is fully engaged and sending delightful signals of enjoyment to the reward center of your brain... and why not?! You work hard... both of you deserve a reward! Now the longer you continue this performance the more your receptors will continue to stimulate your brain and so and so forth until you achieve orgasm. Now hopefully you achieve it together but if not, no worries, you can still continue to help your partner to achieve what you both have started. As I said you both work hard you both deserve it. You can also use romance enhancers such as enhancement creams, heating lubricants and toys to help either of you with achieving your crowning glory.

Now I think we all know what happens during orgasm but if you are brand new to all this or are not sure that you have ever had an orgasm before...

Don't laugh I have actually talked with people who have asked ... seriously.

For Men it can last anywhere on average from 3-10 seconds and includes contractions of the anal sphincter the prostate gland (or the male G-spot<again another blog) and the penis muscle. It also usually proceeds with the release of sperm known as ejaculation but depending on the rate at which this has happened it is not always the case. After a male orgasm it is followed by a refractory period. What is this you ask? Well I will tell. You may know it as... OMG I am spent .. can we not cuddle and while your at it could you make me a sandwich and wake me up in about an hour.. Syndrome. It is during this time,ranging from minutes to hours for some men, where another orgasm cannot be achieved.

For Women we do not have a Refractory Period which allows us to have multiple consecutive orgasms which is nice... really really really nice. During our orgasm our uterus, vagina, pelvic muscles and anus contract. Some women have been known to have been mistaken in having epileptic seizures when this happens. Do not get your the tongue depressors and epi pens out quite yet guys it is a natural occurrence in some women during multiple consecutive orgasms. Most orgasms for women last about 20 seconds but can be much longer if multiple consecutive orgasms are what she experiences. Lucky yes indeed we are and even luckier if we have a partner who knows how to bring it out in us. But not as lucky as the Pig who can have multiple consecutive orgasms for up to 30 minutes!!!

I know! Right?! Lucky ass pig!

But it all starts and finishes in the control or lack of in the Brain. Here is where the good Science comes in. Under functional MRI it is discovered that the brain is flooded with Dopamine which is a feel good chemical that is most times linked to drugs like Heroine or Cocaine.  Dopamine is the chemical that gives you the craving of things that feel good to you. This is in tandem with the release of Oxytocin.. not be confused with Oxycontin. Oxytocin is a hormone that plays a role in bonding, trust and maternal instincts. This is why a lot of OB/GYN's suggest love making during postpartum depression.

Pet Scans taken during an orgasm has shown that during an orgasm it is the SAME for men and women. The lateral orbitofrontal cortex shuts down which is the determining factor for self evaluation, reason, self control, fear and anxiety... which explains a lot when I see these women go nuts at a Chippendale convention. I never understood why these women would scream, hoot and holler. Don't get me wrong, I do certainly like what I see. They are pretty to look at. But the main reason I go is to get a chuckle out of those women  who almost faint in excitement. Anyhoodle, let's continue shall we?

The relaxation of the Amygdala and Hippocampus lower emotion in women (another reason to get your women off Men!) causing an almost trance like state and also lower aggression in men. The only real difference between men and women in the Brain during an orgasm is many areas of a womans brain are shut down COMPLETELY and in Men it isn't as striking probably due to the shorter duration and refractory period. The Periaqueductal Gray or PAG  is also activated much more in women which stimulates the flight or fight response along with the Cebreal Cortex which is associated with pain receptors. 

Hmmmm I wonder if that is why I like my hair pulled or spanked sometimes.... 

I always have said there is a fine line between pain and pleasure. Now I know why!

 Yes indeed Science is Sexy !!

I hope that explains a bit more of what happens to us physically above and beyond what we can feel to all of you reading this. I just think the more we understand the better we can become at expressing what we like and want from our partners.  If we know how our bodies and minds react it give a clearer indication overall of what is truly going on. 

Remember to check out my store. The link is to the right. 

Please leave your comments and be sure to take this weeks poll over to the left. If there is something you would like me to research please do not hesitate to ask.

Now go out and have some wonderful Sex ya'll!

The Low Down on Lube

I was walking down the isle of my favorite drug store the other day and realized that there are a lot of different types of lubes out there on the market today.  We really have come pretty far since I was a youngster and wondering why my mother and father for that matter had a HUGE jar of Vasoline next to their bedside table. I thought as I got a bit older “Why do they need it on both night stands?” –Shrug, O-well.

So as promised I will be going over the different types of lubes on the market today. What they are good for, texture, aftermath factor, overall price which to choose and why. 

So let’s get slickery shall we and slidddde on into the topic….

Water-Based Lube

This is the most common lube on the market and is compatible with all of your toys no matter what the material type. It is the most budget friendly of all that I will be talking about as well. All lubes in this category, including the flavored lubes, are condom friendly. No risk in breakdown. They are smooth and slick but most contain a propylene glycol which can be irritating to some women and cause yeast infection if prolonged use. They are water-soluble which means the skin and mucous membranes in the vagina or anus will absorb them quickly so several applications will need to be made for any marathon sessions. Since it is water-soluble clean-up is a breeze, just rinse and go.

IN SUMMARY

*Budget friendly
*Wide Variety Including Flavored
*Toy and Condom Friendly
*Clean up easy

Silicone Based Lubricants

This lube is much more slippery and last much longer and is non-irritating. It is not water-soluble which means this is great for water play and no I don’t mean Golden Showers… or maybe if your into that type of thing. Since they are thinner and not water-soluble a little goes a long way. It is a good thing too because even a small bottle of this precious liquid can be quite costly. So if your cat decides to climb up on the bedside table and become a voyeur in your marathon love making session, make sure you put the lid on it. Nothing is worse than stopping mid-orgasm because your 1.7 oz,$20.00 bottle of  lube is slowly dripping down the side of your nightstand because your cat decided that watching you was as about as exciting as watching paint dry. But I digress….

Not being water soluble also means that clean up isn’t as easy. An extra towel maybe nice when using this type of lube and a shower is most definitely going to be needed afterwards. Another down side to silicone lubes is they do not play well with silicone toys. They are safe on latex however.

IN SUMMARY

*Priciest of all the lube categories
*Condom Friendly
*Toy friendly UNLESS IT IS MADE OF SILICONE *so Silicone to Silicone NO GOOD THIS IS
*Great Water play lube
*Can be a bit messy and hard to clean up

Oil Based Lubes

JUST DON’T USE THEM PERIOD! Okay that was a little harsh but let me explain. Oil lubes will corrode latex so they are not condom safe. They are also REALLY bad for a vagina and anus as they help breed bacteria. So I REALLLLLLLLY hope my parents used that Vaseline to soften their feet at night.  Baby oil, Vaseline, Crisco, Body Lotions these are all oil based. Although they last a while in viscosity they should really only be used for body massages and MAYBE a happy ending for the guy if ya want. Above and beyond that DON’T USE IT!

IN SUMMARY

*JUST DON’T USE IT!

Well those are your basics… I could go into all the other types of other ones out there like Edible Lubes (water based mostly). Spermicidal Lubes (usually water-based) have a main chemical of nonoxynol 9 or N-9 which helps immobilize sperm. Down side in order to be effective a woman has to insert it 10-15 min before having sexual intercourse.                            Yaaawwwwnnnnn....

 Yeah my thoughts exactly sister. 

There is a Hybrid Lube that is a mix between Water and Silicone that people are leaning more towards because it isn’t as pricey as the pure Silicone but overall the same rules apply as the Silicone.

Warming Lubes (mostly water based) can be alright just make sure you read the label before placing anywhere near the vaginal area especially if they are flavored. They may contain higher amounts of glycol which means higher chance of yeast infection. But again GREAT for massages. 

Warming, tingling , desensitizing and shrink lubes fall more under the enhancement category although they CAN be used as lube.  However!!! I will not condone desensitizing cream for anything other then putting on an erection before you place a condom on. This will keep your Johnson at bay and the desensitizing cream from your woman’s lady parts so she will not become desensitized… Gawd knows we need all the stimulation we can get! Am I right? Can I get a witness!

As for using it on women…. Well I only advise desensitizing cream for women for plucking of eyebrows, getting a Brazilian wax or if you are getting a tattoo of some sort. Other than that no other reason. Ladies or Gentleman (we will discuss anal play with you guys at a later blog) if you use it for Anal play I will release the hounds of hell on you.  Okay maybe…

But let me tell you this. Pain is there for a reason. If you are trying anal sex for the first time and you need a desensitizing cream then you’re not doing it right. You haven’t stretched enough or you’re going too fast. For whatever the reason LISTEN TO YOUR BODY and your partner. If you use desensitizing cream and he is tearing tissue in there it could really do some damage you would never know it. Same for the guys.

And Shrink Cream!!!!! For ALL THAT IS RIGHT AND WRONG WITH THE WORLD

 NOOOOOOOOOOO

Ladies! If you don’t feel like your all that tight down there anymore for WHATEVER reason please please please please please do not fall prey to the advertisements of shrink cream or Chinese shrink cream. The number one ingredient in this product is Alum! It is a known FACT that 1 ounce of this stuff ingested could kill a full grown adult! What it does is takes all the water out of the cells so the tissue swells causing shrinkage. It is not permanent and there have been no studies on the effects to a woman’s vaginal walls or cervix. But it cannot be good at all.
So Ladies you want things to be tighter and in tip top shape down there? Exercise. And you can even do it with weights called Ben Wah Balls and Kegel exercises … there is even an APP FOR THAT! That is right Folks. It is called Kegel Camp click here to get it. It is for the best exercise for both men and women to do in order to have better sex and strengthen that old PC muscle.

Well I hope we have learned a little bit today and don’t forget to take the poll over on the left hand side.

Leave your comments and feed back if you will or let me know what you think by emailing me at mppbynikki@gmail.com. And visit my website at www.mypurepleasure.com/1104. While your there purchase some nice lube.

Happy Sex ya’ll !